... to find a genius of some sort, but that's not necessary, and often less than desirable, because by their very nature, people who function at the genius level are using strategies that will be very difficult for other people to replicate easily, which is the whole point of an NLP pattern at the end of the day.
You are better off with looking for a reasonably ordinary person who does something particularly well, something that is useful to you and/or others, because there is no point in spending time making an NLP model and then testing it and refining it into an NLP pattern that you can write up and sell to your compatriotes if it's not useful in some way.
Now I do believe that each person alive has some thing they do well, and that if we studied each and every one, we would find some thing worth taking through that process.
But the easiest way to build or create or write a new NLP pattern is to start with something you want.
Once you know what that is, you can find a person who is good at it and model them doing that.
For example, you might be terrible at taking your family on a family holiday, because no-one ever took you as a kid and so you don't have a model of what to do and how to behave.
Your next door neighbour, however, who has 6 kids, loves taking them out and does so constantly and seems to be enjoying the process.
So the first step is to observe the neighbour and what he does, what he says, how he goes about the whole thing.
And we find out that it starts off with seeing something on the TV that he finds exciting, and imagines himself doing this for himself, and then presupposing that whatever he finds exciting, will be exciting for his kids also.
On this occasion, he saw some quad bikes being driven around on a beach and it triggered the beginning of the process.
It was clear from the start that he had a vision of himself having fun on a quad bike on the beach which motivated him to start researching such holidays and kept him focused the whole way through, and this vision was energizing him tremendously.
This enthusiasm infected his entire family, apart from his wife, who was weary of it all and insisted that on holidays, he should take sole responsibility for the kids.
This was a given, so wherever he went and whatever he did, he did it with 6 kids trailing in his wake like little ducks on a pond.
It turned out that he gave little or no thought to the kids or what they wanted but remained entirely focused on his vision of himself having fun, and the kids just sort of fitted into that as an afterthought.
He wasn't worried about the kids, or whether or not they were entertained or educated by any of this, and thus remained perfectly cheerful and in a good mood even on a long drive with the entire family packed into the car and their kit strapped onto the roofrack.
Because of his cheerful attitude, the children also retained a sense of cheer and excitement as well as adventure, and what for another man might have been the nightmare to end all nightmares, was easy and fun for the neighbour.
So, and after all of this, the actual model is really simple.
1. Find something to excite you and envision you having fun strongly which ...
2. Motivates all and every action that has to be taken to make the vision a reality and ...
3. When anything goes wrong, to return to the vision immediately to get that excitement back which in turn ...
4. Leads to being fully focused, cheerful, and able to withstand all manner of stress - easily.
And there we have an NLP model.
Now, we can firstly look at each point in turn and think about what kind of strategy we want to use to "install" that in another person.
Clearly, this revolves around someone's ability to first of all, spot something that excites them and secondly, to envision (which is lucidity with all modalities) themselves doing it so strongly that it produces a powerful forward motivation to experience that which has been envisioned.
NLP patterns already exist to deal with that, but even if they didn't, once we know that's what we want to achieve, it's not that difficult even for an untrained person to get the gist and have a go, using their own strategies to excite themselves to the point where there are no doubts remaining and the forward momentum is all there is.
We can take the model above and add more detailed, step by step instructions and then we have an NLP pattern - we may call this one the "Excitement Pattern".
And even though it was modeled on a family man going on holiday with 6 kids and a weary wife and having lots of fun in the process, we can already see that this newly build NLP pattern can be mapped across on all sorts of things.
In fact, this is a very useful goal setting and goal achievement pattern that can be mapped across onto almost any situation that is experienced as painful, worrying, potential too hard, too difficult, or not enough fun.
The "Excitement Pattern" I just created for fun on the fly here can be developed much further, to create step stones of success from one thing to another - because how does our family guy get everyone including himself back home and remain cheerful even AFTER the quad bike experience on the beach was had?
He excites himself with something that awaits on his return. In this case, a barbeque in the garden with extra big steaks he got on the way home from a farm shop.
The guy is unstoppable!
And even after the barbeque, we find him cheerfully washing up and putting the kids to bed, because he's looking FORWARD to joining his wife in a short while upstairs - and there's a reason those two have six kids in the first place ...
I will tell you that these kinds of useful NLP patterns are absolutely EVERYWHERE. They're all around you. You do NOT have to wait until an Erickson, Satir or Milton cross your path to start making NLP models and refining them into patterns.
Our family guy definitely didn't figure too highly on the intellectual Richter scale - but boy did he teach us a useful trick in the "Excitement Pattern".
Check it out.
There people everywhere cheerfully doing things you or I might find impossible, difficult, unobtainable, out of reach, out of character, and if we were to model them and write a new NLP pattern from what we've learned, we could overcome our own limitations.
That's the whole spirit of NLP - to *use* the excellence that exists in other people and make it your own.
Start by looking at people in that NLP model makers way, what they do, what they say, and when YOU find something that sets you alight as much as the quad bikes on TV inspired our family guy, then start going for it.
Find out how it's done, learn all you can about it, and make a first model.
It doesn't have to be perfect, you can have as many passes with the TOTE as you need to make it work and make it right.
Then write it up and hey presto - that's how you make a new NLP pattern.
Have fun, experiment, live and learn :-)
Dr Silvia Hartmann